The Defining Factor

The definition of a Lady is "One who makes those around her comfortable." It has nothing to do with wealth or looks, but it is how you treat other people. This definition encompass most of what I have already been saying about being on time, treating others well, being modest, choosing words that will not offend people. In fact, what we say is just as important as what we do. You do not need to have a large vocabulary (though one is nice) in order to have intelligent or meaningful conversations. I was doing research on Irving Berlin (the man who wrote the song White Christmas as well as God Bless America) and his philosophy was that people liked simple songs that said what they meant, and what they new.
So, instead of trying to remember all of the thousands of rules about doing this or that and always saying the rite thing, just try and remember to make people comfortable....not necessarily meaning fluffing their pillows before they sit down on the couch, but perhaps refilling a glass of water for them. In that mindset, simplicity often is the best way to go.