Well, I am going to start this one by apologizing for the face that it is up on Monday and not Friday. Unfortunately I was delayed in writing it here, and I could not get on another computer. However, some good has come of this, for it has given me an excellent topic for this weeks blog, and that is "When and How to Apologize"
When: when you were wrong in a situation is a good place to start, but it is also a good idea to apologize for an accident, or for something that you did not mean to do. Sometimes we are even rite in an argument (or something of the like) and on that premise we hurt someone, or make them feel inferior. All of those things are good reasons to apologize to someone.
How: The particulars on this one depend solely on the situation, and can be different every time, but there are some basic principles that apply to every one. The first is that you apologize quickly, in fact you apologize as soon as you find out that there is a problem (unless it is in the middle of the night, then you wait until morning, after 8:00 am) I know that this can be hard, however, even if you are dreading it, the sooner you do it, the sooner it is done. This also lets the other people involved know that you care enough about them to resolve the problem quickly. Second is that when you apologize, you always do it humbly, you never apologize and talk down to them at the same time, that would defeat the purpose. Third, if you have a reason for saying or doing what you did, in most cases you simply state why it happened and leave it at that. There are some cases however, where this "reason" would be seen as an excuse and would be better left unsaid. Forth is that you are always sincere when you apologize to someone. This is important because if you are not, then it is dishonest to say that you are sorry, and they can most likely see through it. And finally, number five, you must really do what you say that you are going to do. I have mentioned before that someones word used to be considered their gold, the same holds true here, if you are apologizing to someone and you say that you will never do that again, take care that you don't. What people see you doing says more than what you can ever tell them. If you promise to buy them a new vase, then it is probably best to go and buy one within that week. This one thing I promise you will heal more relationships than any amout of flattery ever could.
Proverv: A kind word turns away wrath.
When: when you were wrong in a situation is a good place to start, but it is also a good idea to apologize for an accident, or for something that you did not mean to do. Sometimes we are even rite in an argument (or something of the like) and on that premise we hurt someone, or make them feel inferior. All of those things are good reasons to apologize to someone.
How: The particulars on this one depend solely on the situation, and can be different every time, but there are some basic principles that apply to every one. The first is that you apologize quickly, in fact you apologize as soon as you find out that there is a problem (unless it is in the middle of the night, then you wait until morning, after 8:00 am) I know that this can be hard, however, even if you are dreading it, the sooner you do it, the sooner it is done. This also lets the other people involved know that you care enough about them to resolve the problem quickly. Second is that when you apologize, you always do it humbly, you never apologize and talk down to them at the same time, that would defeat the purpose. Third, if you have a reason for saying or doing what you did, in most cases you simply state why it happened and leave it at that. There are some cases however, where this "reason" would be seen as an excuse and would be better left unsaid. Forth is that you are always sincere when you apologize to someone. This is important because if you are not, then it is dishonest to say that you are sorry, and they can most likely see through it. And finally, number five, you must really do what you say that you are going to do. I have mentioned before that someones word used to be considered their gold, the same holds true here, if you are apologizing to someone and you say that you will never do that again, take care that you don't. What people see you doing says more than what you can ever tell them. If you promise to buy them a new vase, then it is probably best to go and buy one within that week. This one thing I promise you will heal more relationships than any amout of flattery ever could.
Proverv: A kind word turns away wrath.
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